(This is a rant)
Ladies, I’m not sure if you know this but some (read most) men don’t want to pay for everything. They just don’t.
This is something I am very passionate about. Not because I am trying to defend men or not even because I am some crazy feminist (which I am) its just that if you want to be afforded all of the opportunities gender equality has to offer then you need to reach into your wallet. I know gender equality is more an ideal than a reality but some of you are really fucking up the cause. Ya, I swore.
Why are we waiting to be fed and entertained? We aren’t Tamagotchis. There are some crazy things I often hear in conversations about this topic :
1. “I deserve it”
Why, because you are pretty? Lol.
What are you doing in return to deserve it? Because if you are in fact doing something well then isn’t that similar to prostituting yourself for the occasional burrito and movie ticket?
2. “But he doesn’t ever ask me to pay.”
Remember those crazy mind map things we used to get in teenage magazines to find out if you would marry your highschool sweetheart? Well heres one to help you through this process.
Dating these days has definitely changed but some old fashion rules have persisted. Why though? Its 2016. Isn’t the whole point of being independently wealthy so that we have the choice to go where we want and do what we want and date who we want.
Why is it the norm that so many women are looking for a provider instead of a partner? For a man a woman’s earning potential carries very little weight. If he chats to his friends post date its mostly about the size of her tits. With women its about if he has his finances and life ‘in order’.
Ladies, we are doing ourselves a great injustice. If you are in the top 20% of earners and you are adamant that your partner earns more than you then you have eliminated 80% of the dating population. Men get to choose a partner based on what I think matters most – Humour, compatibility, kindness, tit size.
Why is it that if your boyfriend earns less than you he is “not good husband material” but if you earn less than him then you’re just “his girlfriend”?
Somewhere along the line relationships have turned from partnerships where 2 people are working towards a common goal to a battle where guys show up with their wallets and women with their vaginas.
This was a really long way of going about saying :
1. Work for the shit you want and then pay for it.
2. Stop limiting your dating pool.
3. I like burgers and burritos.